Media and Muslim Women

Muslim Women, Media and Social Media

I recently attended a lecture with my aunt and was truly impressed with the moderate approach Islam is starting to take. As a communication consultant myself with a vested interest in Islam from both mystical and practical level, I felt that light should be shed on two areas by posing very practical questions: 

Is it the cakes fault you are bulimic ?

The usage of basic animal instinct (sex) to attract someone is due to the lack of ability to attract a partner by means of elevated consciousness, healthy self esteem, patience, and true value of what matters between men and women.

If we look at the essence of the problem its a lack of healthy connection to God, which leads to ever more destructive tendencies. The idea is to support women and men to integrate and have an independent connection to God in order to build healthy relationships with the inner self, the community and untimely to God.

Hence, it is important to encourage all elements that fall under the sex banner which is attraction, compassion, tolerance, love, mercy and family. Looking at sex from a healthy perspective embraces the unity amongst men and women, increases healthy dynamics with children, and builds constructive healthy societies.

Condemning women sexuality  reinforces the masculine, suppressing the feminine and making women resent themselves further more reinforcing negative tendencies and lack of connection to God.

Is smoking cannabis bad for you?

Cannabis is both a poison and a cure, depending on who your consumer is it can help you through the pain of cancer or it can be an excuse to leave your stressful life and achieve “nothing” in this world or hereafter. 

Same applies to social media and everything in life. As Hadith narrated in Boukari says “ Ina al aamal bil niyat” Its the intention and mindset that effects the outcome. 

Hence, the encouragement for our women in the community to use social media in a wise and constructive way by increasing the desire to share and learn positive message, is the healthy approach that scholars should take. Condemning social media and women in media in general also reinforces the problem by increased suppression.

This was written to aid the growth of the feminine is a healthy manner to build more stable nurturing societies as a whole.

By Jana Sharaf

Public affairs, Philosopher, and Founder of "NOON EVE"

I am jealous- Help me!

When I was asked about jealousy 2 weeks ago, I started to write an article which is now long gone in the trash. The 1st version was too philosophical & the 2nd too academic. I did not feel like I had anything to say to this person that needed my help! I truly prayed to be able to help this person, and fortunately God answered my prayers. I now write from my heart, and the tools to overcome it come from experience  making them effective.

Jealousy is a deep rooted feeling of insecurity telling you that you are not good enough. The mind starts to protect itself to be able to hide the vulnerability of “not enough” creating more emptiness.The problem is its ALL A LIE,  lies only create an imaginary situation that does not exist, will never manifest and you are only empowering a power that does not exist.

The feeling of wanting something but the fear that you will not have it is an illusion, it's not reality for you need to know that you have, and will have everything you need in order to grow, become a better person and ultimately live a better life.

Deeper Factors of Jealousy:

Where does this fear of ‘not enough’ (emptiness) stem from, the truth is simple: from prior experience. It might not be the same situation on the surface and initially it might not even seem related, but somewhere along the lines you experienced loss or felt that something was taken from you. This feeling generated a strong thought and thus the linear working mind decided to start creating ways to protect itself.

STEPS 2 Recovery

The bright side is everything in life is desire, if you are willing to put enough effort in the right way you can change your jealousy by awareness and rearranging the content of your mind.

STEP 1:

When you feel any negative emotion, observe if it is coming from fear and lack, if it is... then withdraw and let the thought go.

STEP 2:

Connect to this particular idea, and come to believe it.

“The outcome of all affairs is determines by Divine decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it shall never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee”

Connecting to this simple truth can help you elevate from jealousy and take a path to your own ability and purpose in life.

Imitate Me:

Unaware reactive behavior causes a person to act on auto pilot, meaning that everything he does in action is predetermined by an over thinking mind which is not reality. This reactive mind causes you to imitate other people, wishing you had their life,creating more dissatisfaction as you are not the leader but an effect. This diminishes your power, making you more jealous, unhappy and the longer you refuse to change the more unhappy you will become..

I sincerely hope this article helps those in need, and may we be helped by divine grace to overcome this challenge.

By Jana Sharaf

Political consultant, philosopher, dream analyst and founder of "NOON EVE"